Relatedness & Friendship

1. If you just talk you can get by. But if you skillfully, intimately and deeply communicate, you can work miracles. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
2. Smiling, welcoming and thanking are tax-free assets; use them often. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
3. The goal of effective communication should be for the listener to say, "Me, too!" vs. "So what?" ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
4. What makes you effective in life and what you can accomplish is your level of relationship to reality. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
5. We have all heard this before; "Talk is cheap." Actually, talk is very expensive! Especially the internal dialogue that we have with ourselves, the voice that talks us out of lots of great projects that we can do to have an amazing life! It costs us a lot, listening to that voice! So stop listening. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
6. When you relate only to yourself and not to other people's realities, you will never find the solution to problems in life because you don't know what the problems are. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
7. You are not completely ready to go anywhere until you put your smile on your face! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
8. The wonderful things that can bring us together or separate us forever are our thoughts. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
9. Just because we are breathing it doesn't mean we are living life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
10. Your communication skills do not show in what you say or how you are saying it. They show in how well your message is received by others and how well they understand what you are saying! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
11. If you like to postpone, procrastinate and put things off for tomorrow, try that with your anger, hate and regrets. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
12. Assumptions, interpretations and expectations are front-runners of any upset. Add high and boiling emotions to it, and you have yourself a pure disaster in the making! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
13. The greatest contribution you can give to someone you love is your own personal development and who you are. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
14. Our dark and nasty side is the only thing we need to put on hold. We would live a much more peaceful life if we were to procrastinate on our anger and upset with ourselves and with others. Try it; it works! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
15. Others will become who we determine them to be. We are the ones who create jerks or great people. We are the ones who call a situation good or bad, right or wrong. Remember, there is nothing until we name it. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
16. Make sure you pay attention to your intuitions and your feelings about someone or something. On the other hand, make sure to know where those intuitions and feelings are being generated. Perhaps your feelings have nothing to do with that person and/or situation you are facing. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
17. Do you have your mind open to others' viewpoints? Are you interested to learn about others' ways to get something done? Practice makes perfect. Try to have a more open mind. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
18. Some of us cannot shut up, because we have something important to say. We just get fascinated by our own voice. However, the effectiveness in communication is in the listening! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
19. If you call yourself a friend, make sure to stand for your friends' greatness and excellence and do not sell out on them! Do what you need to do and say what needs to be said so they can powerfully move forward in a great direction in life. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
20. Your beauty has nothing to do with your size, dimensions or clothing! It has to do with your peace, your heart and how you treat others. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
21. It is easy to relate to others. Start with a smile and use welcoming language and welcoming behavior. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
22. We always put ourselves in hot water and hard situations with others when we jump to conclusions and do what we feel we want to do in the moment without thinking and being present to the whole picture. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
23. Your love and your possessions will not keep your relationship together, your respect will. Loving someone and respecting them are two different things. Find out what is missing in regards to respecting someone and work with them on that. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
24. We shall not trust our decisions when we are mad or upset. Most of those decisions will end up making you and I look like jerks...talking from experience. You know what I mean, right? ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
25. Sometimes we just have to trust our hearts and our passion. Sometimes we don't need to be worried about all the details, we just need to look deep into our souls and we know what to do...let it rip! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
26. It is all in relationships! People come back to you and your business if they feel welcomed, respected and having been taken care of! You also have to remember this: people will talk! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
27. Keep looking at your own greatness and be grateful for all of your blessings. Day after day you will be able to separate yourself from your own smallness as well as the smallness of others. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
28. You know, as much as we love to make everything about us, after awhile it becomes very boring! Make sure the people around you are powerful, educated and growing, and you will grow with them. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
29. Keep laughing at yourself and at life itself. The hours will pass by faster and you will have more people around you and having more fun! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
30. Each and every one of us has those unique qualities that are just us and set us apart from others, our values, our principles and where we are standing in relationship to other people. ~Behnam Bakhshandeh
31. I am a firm believer that our success and effectiveness in communication is all in the way we listen, when we put aside our view of others, the way we think they are and who we think they are! ~Behnam Bakhshandeh